Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Q: "So what have you been up to? /How r u doing?"

TBI: Life without the (brain’s) ability to trail make






Picture a hallway. There are five doors; 4 are brown. 1 is white and leads only to utility closet, is color coded white and doesn‘t enter into the following equation.



So a hallway, four doors, all brown, each a slightly different size, and each of the four brown doors with a slightly different finish to the wood.



How long would it take you to differentiate between these four doors? To learn and know automatically what was behind each of these four doors?



Behind one door is a bedroom, behind one door is a bathroom. The other two doors are closets, one closet door is narrow and corresponds to the shape of the bathroom, behind this door are linens and toiletries. The other closet door, of the four doors in this hallway, contains coats- the shape of this door corresponds to the shape of the bedroom door



How long would take you to memorize behind which door was what? Or to imprint the kinetic memory?



A day? A month? Imagine if it took months- months just to know what is behind which door in the building in which you live. Months to not keep making that same mistake over and over and over again as simply to which closet you can find a towel and which closet you go to for a coat.



How long would you be gong to the bedroom and be pulling the door to the coat closet?



But that’s this apartment, 2009-2011.



In my first apartment after the crash (2001) I spent four years (2002-2005) looking for the silverware drawer and trying to find which cabinet contained the water glasses.



Putting away a load (or two!?) of laundry was an all day event

and sadly

is still taxing.



Not like it was, that’s what I ever say: I’m much better, I’ve improved more than you can imagine. The thing is people don’t have much imagination for what a TBI, or anything really, is on a 24-7, 12 months a year or 356 days anything is or could be.